End of Life Wisdom

End of Life Wisdom

by | Jun 12, 2016 | Happiness, Spirituality | 0 comments

End of Life Wisdom, as overheard by my friend, Silvia Bollinger, a Hospice Nurse:

I have a new hospice client that I met yesterday. I was given an amazing gift, a gift of clarity, a message. The client was sitting next to her husband and she was asking “I never know what God wants me to do or where God wants me to be, I just know that God delivers me to certain places.”
She continued saying that as a child and even now she wonders:

“What should I do with my life? Where should I go? Am I doing it correctly, am on the right path???”

I certainly have asked these same questions. The husband turned to her lovingly and said…
“You are here at this moment where you need to be, that is where God wants from you, this moment.”

The key is this moment and whatever path you walk on, that is your path for this moment in time. Stay on your path my friends. – Sylvia Bollinger, Hospice Nurse

MJR_BLR wedding Life Wisdom
PHOTO: my parents, Milton and Betty Rasmussen on their wedding day. – Jo Lyn Cornelsen

Clearing Clutter & The Sacred Art of Creation

Clearing Clutter & The Sacred Art of Creation

by | Apr 13, 2016 | Happiness, Self Improvement | 0 comments

Clearing Clutter for Joyful Creation

I’m enrolled in Jeanie Brosius King’s webinar (password = nomoreclutter) and her amazing course, “Clutter Clearing for Health, Wealth, Joy and Love”. (If you go there, be sure to tell her I sent you!!)

This morning in our Clearing Clutter Facebook group, Jeanie asked if we have any unfinished projects, deferred decisions, or other things that irritate us about our lives or our businesses.

“What is your biggest clutter area?”

Jeanie gave an example of a coaching client who was struggling to decide whether to go to an-out-of-town conference – or not. In the coaching session with Jeanie, she realized that her deferred (procrastinated) decision was more correctly a case of overwhelm  – too many “unfinished business projects” keeping her stuck. She was overwhelmed with the burdens of submitting overdue tax information, gathering forms, getting help from a women’s business group, deciding how to submit salary information to her CPA….all of these issues represented various forms of overwhelming clutter. The moment she identified these “unfinished projects” as clutter to be cleared, she sprang into action to resolve them, which then left her feeling clear, clean and powerful.

“Clutter is Nothing More than Postponed Decisions” – unknown

My answer to the clutter question revealed similar procrastination issues regarding creating, tracking, filing and submitting the myriads of documents needed for taxes, business, mortgage, and more.  Not surprising, given the state of my office and my attitudes about getting those things done.  I obviously am benefiting from Jeanie’s class and my clutter clearing group.  All well and good, but then my thoughts expanded…

I realize that procrastination of these “necessary” things that I don’t particularly like doing prevents me from giving myself permission to do the fun things I really want to do and that truly bring me joy – creative things like writing my next book, or song, or poem, or blog post. Digging deeper, it also appears that I carry an old underlying belief that in order to be a good person, I must complete all my work before I can play. So… does this mean that I am not a good person?  Now that’s a “can of worms”!

Taking this a bit further down the twisted rabbit hole of my old and unhelpful perceptions of living life in an attitude of scarcity, this led me to an inherited generational attitude (or was it a rebellious teenage perception) about work as:
1) Something that I don’t like doing.
2) Repetitive drudgery.
3) Punishment.
4) Difficult.
5) An activity that brings in money. (Because of course, money is more important than anything else, because without money we couldn’t survive, because of course, in a world of scarcity, there is never enough money.)

Perceiving work in such unhelpful ways, it is no surprise that I carried many inner conflicts about it, and that I created the habit of procrastinating many needful, unpleasant tasks. Especially, because of course, we are only allowed to be happy AFTER the work is done.  Or so I grew up believing. Yes, I know I live in the real world where physical work and paperwork and earning money are necessary parts of surviving and managing our lives in our society.

But I simply don’t like those old punitive, depressing definitions of what work is.
Perceiving work in this way makes me feel that somehow, my inner self is “wrong”, “bad”, “lacking”, “not enough”, “disorganized”, a “procrastinator”, “ineffective” and that because of those things, I am “not allowed to be myself”.  I now realize that these old perceptions kept me in conflict, stuck in a low vibrational state of being.  To continue holding to these old perceptions about work would mean that I am never, ever allowed to play. Which would then mean I am never, ever allowed to be happy in this life. But that’s not true… because in many ways, I am already very, very happy. Perhaps this is just an extension of the personal transformation clearing work I have already begun… expressed in terms of clutter clearing!
Who Am I, Really? 

I am fun loving.  I am creative.  I am joyful.
I can focus for long periods of time on things that I enjoy doing, or that I find purposeful.
I am a writer, a teacher, an artist, an advocate, and a coach.
I love coaching my clients to recognize their potential and achieve their goals.
I love creating systems, processes and structures that solve problems, broaden perspectives and make a positive difference in the lives of others. I sing in the shower. I like arts and crafts and babies and conversations and hugs. I lose track of time when I am writing.  I like to teach by telling stories. I study holistic healing because I want to feel better, then sometimes eat too much sugary chocolate anyway. (Working on that). I love the exploration of expressing newly discovered Sacred Gifts in terms of intercessory prayer, intuitive meditation, and energy medicine.
I work best when I am feeling happy about what I am doing.
I work longer and harder when I feel joyful and generous.
I am most effective when I feel inspired.
In other words, I prefer my work to be play.
Therefore, I hereby change my definition of work.

Changing My Perception About Work

Work helps me learn through practice, provides the opportunity to grow, and gives me a structure in which to contribute personally to the world around me. I feel good about myself when I do good work.
Work helps me discover who I am and explore what I am capable of becoming.
As I discover and explore my own Sacred Gifts, I choose work that feels like… play.
Work supports the development of my values and personal progress…
There are many types of work, and many ways of valuing work.
Pondering the nature of work, I realize that in reality, work is a blessing.
Work provides the opportunity to feel the joy of accomplishment, to be “anxiously engaged in a good cause”, and work supports me in experiencing joy in the sacred art of creation.

I hereby Clear the Clutter of those old, unhelpful perceptions and inner conflicts about the nature of work.  I accept as my divine truth the perception that work is a blessing that empowers me to experience joy in the sacred art of creation.

Accepting and Valuing Today’s Creative Work

Early this morning, my prayer and meditation inspired me to create a fun way I can stay connected and encouraging to my grown children and grandchildren, even though I do not physically live in the same home with them anymore. I got up early and wrote out an inspired process… then once it was on-paper, I relaxed by playing a digital game. However, because it was early morning, I felt twinges of guilt for playing the game before accomplishing the rest of my day’s tasks.  When my husband (a type 3 action taker who also grew up with those same perceptions about work) got up and saw me playing the game on my iPad… a wave of the old guilt hung in the air…  until I showed him the project I had created that morning on paper. He knows this is my “work”… so then it became okay for me to “play”.  So that clutter is cleared.

I am loving this new perspective and appreciation of work as a structure that empowers the sacred art of creation.

Thank you, it is done, it is done, it is done.

Appreciation for My Physical Body

Appreciation for My Physical Body

by | Jan 3, 2016 | Happiness, Holistic Healing, Mindfulness | 0 comments

Appreciation for My Physical Body

DAY 3 of My 28 Day Gratitude Practice: Counting My Blessings.
Today I am consciously aware and grateful for my appreciation for my physical body, and how it empowers me.

I received a blessing at age 16 that told me I am blessed with a beautiful, strong body.  But I doubted that truth. As a child, being very reflective of  generational attitudes, peer values and media messages, I had already picked up some very damaging misconceptions.  These twisted beliefs created inner conflicts regarding my self-image that damaged my feelings of self-worth and affected my ability to love and accept myself.  In turn, this affected my relationships, the way I approached my roles in life, my perception about my capabilities and my beliefs about what is possible for me to be, to become, and to accomplish.

Holistic healing of these misperceptions and resulting emotional issues has been a long journey, but I am so happy to be able to say I have worked through them, and I am truly grateful for my physical body. My body teaches me life lessons, empowers my choices and allows me the joy of creating my life, day by day.

This morning I awoke very early, feeling heavily burdened. At this particular time, I have been carrying some excess weight, despite healthy eating habits.  I have learned that my body is my teacher, so I began asking questions using my muscle testing process. I identified that I have been taking on and carrying some pretty heavy generational emotional burdens – habitually – and that habit has affected by physical physiology.

Apparrently, one of my earliest beliefs was that the way to ease the burdens of others is to take on, hold and carry their struggles, their pains and their troubles for them. Not so. I now realize that more correctly, my gifts as a healer are infinitely more effective when I activate my sacred gifts and become a facilitator, inviting and sharing divine love and light, and helping others to simply let their burdens go…. consciously, effortlessly, and joyfully….

So today, in increased conscious awareness, I used the Emotional Freedom Technique to free myself of this subconscious, debilitating habit. I can better use my holistic healing skills for good as I witness the healing power of divine love and light… so I began with myself. Tapping on my crown chakra and the tapping points on my face, torso and hands, I gave recognition to the issue, released it, sent it to the light, and felt comforted in my body, my spirit, and my soul. And for this, I am grateful.

My message to you today is to encourage you that it is never too late to heal your thoughts, heal your emotions, heal your relationships, and your life. And healing is often easier than you may think.

Counting My Blessings

So here’s ten blessings I am grateful for, in Appreciation of My Physical Body

1.     I can see.

2.     I can hear.

3.     I can breathe.

4.     I can smell.

5.     I can taste.

6.     I can walk.

7.     I can use my hands.

8.     I can move my body purposefully

9.     I can think.

10. I can use my body to bring my thoughts into physical reality and express myself.

I am so grateful that I have learned to love myself enough to appreciate the beauty of being in physical form as a human being on this amazing planet.  I am so grateful that I am able to use this beautiful physical body of mine to create experience this amazing world we live in.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. It is done, it is done, it is done.
Jo Lyn

Count Your Blessings

Count Your Blessings

by | Jan 2, 2016 | Happiness, Mindfulness | 0 comments

Count Your Blessings

Count Your Blessings – the inspiration and the structure for my 28 Day Gratitude Practice comes from “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne. This first exercise, to be repeated for 28 days, is called the “Count Your Blessings Practice”.

Count Your Blessings Practice

“First thing in the morning, make a list of ten blessings in your life you are grateful for.  Write why you are grateful for each blessing.  Go back and read your list, either in your mind or out loud.  When you get to the end of each one, say the magic words, Thank You, Thank You, Thank You, and feel the gratitude for that blessing as much as you possibly can. Repeat the Count Your Blessings Practice for the next 27 days.”

This reminds me of the Christian Hymn, Count Your Many Blessings
“Count your many blessings, name them one by one.
Count your many blessings, see what God has done.”

Whether we look at the conditions of our lives as trials or blessings is simply a matter of perspective.
And perspective is a choice.
Maybe that’s where the magic comes from …
Our own choice of perspective…
I choose joy.

Counting My Blessings…
Jo Lyn Cornelsen

28 Day Gratitude Practice

28 Day Gratitude Practice

by | Jan 1, 2016 | Happiness, Mindfulness | 0 comments

28 Day Gratitude Practice

I am beginning my New Year by Counting My Blessings with a 28 Day Gratitude Practice, introduced to me by my soul friend Jeanie Brosius King, and based on the book “The Magic”, by Rhonda Byrne. Here’s 10 things I am grateful for this morning.

I am excited to see what comes up for me each day as the practice progresses… as I count my blessings.  Will my thoughts of gratitude tend to be specific or general? Will my day to day activities be more important to me than taking time to be grateful?  Will I really find 10 different things to write about each day for 28 days?  If I can do it, I will complete this 28 day gratitude practice with a list of 280 blessings accounted for.

Well, I think I can do this… or I wouldn’t have agreed to begin.  I can do it because I live a lifestyle that allows me to sleep until completely rested, and my first waking thoughts include a practice of meditative prayer.  This early morning hour is for me, sacred, grounding, balancing, centering and connecting.  It feeds my soul.  And for that, I am most grateful.

So here’s my first 10 things I am grateful for on this first of my 28 Day Gratitude Practice.

  1. Life itself.
  2. My husband.
  3. Each of our children. There’s 5 of them…
  4. Each of our grandchildren… 14 so far, and more to come…
  5. A comfortable bed to sleep in, a roof over my head, and the beautiful trees that connect me with the Creator of All Things…Oh wait… that’s more than 10 things, and I have 27 more days of gratitude to go!

Sending blessings of gratitude, abundance of joy to the world in this New Year of 2016
Jo Lyn Cornelsen

THE MAGIC by Rhonda Byrne

“The Count Your Blessings and Magic Rock practices will ensure that you begin and end your days in a state of gratitude, In fact, they are so powerful that together they would change your life in a few months, But this book is designed to change your life really fast through an abundance of magical practices. Because gratitude is magnetic and attracts more things to be grateful for, the concentration of gratitude over 28 days will intensify the magnetic force of our gratitude. When you have a strong magnetic force of gratitude, like magic, you will automatically magnetize everything you want and need to you!” The Magic, by Rhonda Byrne, page 39

We Are All Connected

by | Nov 22, 2015 | Career, Happiness, Relationships | 0 comments

We are all connected… every conversation matters…

My brother called me recently with tears in his eyes/voice, to read me a letter he had just received from our niece. It went something like this:

“Dear Uncle,
Seven years ago you were inspired to call me.
You didn’t know it was the day after my divorce, and when you called, I was in panic mode.
I was wondering what would happen to me next, worrying where I could live and how on earth
I could possibly manage to take care of myself and my children.

You took time to listen, and then you asked me a question.
You asked me if the next 4 years would pass by regardless of the choices I made.
I said yes.
So you told me to focus on what was most important,
and to go get an education that would give me the ability
to take care of myself and my family without depending on anybody else.

So I did. I went to school, and it was really, really, really hard.
Today, I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing,
I am a licensed Registered Nurse,
and I am working in the State of Oregon.

And I am very grateful for my Uncle, who didn’t know what I was going through, but who felt inspired to call me – and who listened, and then told me what he thought I should do.
And did it. Thanks a Million”

We are all connected.

Emotions as Teachers

by | Nov 21, 2015 | Happiness, Holistic Healing, Mindfulness, Relationships, SoulTalk | 0 comments

Emotions as Teachers

I grew up with the generational belief that emotions were not to be trusted.
As a young teen I was specifically counseled to use my head and not my heart,
by someone who, I now realize, did not know how to harness his own emotions
and express them in positive ways.

I have since learned that emotions are powerful, sacred tools of creation.
I find joy in exploring the messages they bring me.
In this perspective, emotions are my teachers.
Our daily life experiences bring up emotions that teach us – if we are open to the lessons.
Here’s a new insight for me:

My husband is currently commuting during the week to his job… gone for 5 days at a time. Yesterday I felt particularly lonely. My muscle testing process revealed it was my own emotion… not generational… and not related specifically to my husband being away from home.
That was a puzzle…
Until this morning’s SoulTalk … when it was revealed to me that I had associated the emotion of being lonely with old age… somewhere along the way I picked up and held onto the false belief that being old was equal to being lonely. I used my clearing process to let go of that incorrect subconscious belief and the associated emotion of loneliness right away.

I intend to live joyfully all the rest of my days… comfortable and happy when I am in the company of others, and comfortable and happy when I am alone. I would not have even become aware of that unconscious incorrect association if my husband was not away for several days each week.

I am grateful for new insights and the skills and ability to heal holistically…
This personal power to grow and change helps me feel loved by God and the Universe…

Thank you for listening…
It is done, it is done, it is done.

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